Ruth Sadelle Alderson

I'm trying to remember if this was the post I originally want to reply to, or not. I agree with you that a lot of people, once they realize (a) how self-revealing Marysues are and (b) how much fandom as a whole hates them, learn to marysue themselves through canon characters.

Not that I think this is a problem, actually--any more than women writers getting drawn to write m/m slash because it gives them a neutral playing field to work out certain kinds of desires. (Heck, even without writing them down? Certain fantasies make my feminist brain a lot less uncomfortable if I'm having Jared, Jensen or JDM act them out in my head than if I picture myself in the same scenarios.)

You can't be too very worried about self-exposure if you're doing days of kink recs, though--or at least you're doing a good job of confronting your fears.